Self-care is an integral part of being a bad ass!
For the first time in my 30-year career I recently made the difficult choice to step down from a board leadership role well before my term was due to conclude – in fact, it was practically at the onset of my term. This decision was a tough one, and I grappled with it, fearing that I was failing my fellow board members. Then I got the flu. I had a panic attack. I had to be okay with letting others down so I could take care of myself. It was then that I realized the importance of prioritizing my own well-being, even if it meant disappointing others.
How can I create a retreat for women to take care of themselves and not practice what I am preaching?
Ladies, I'd like to have a candid conversation with you... How often have you found yourself saying "yes" when it was a challenge? Saying "yes" to others often translates to saying "no" to ourselves. It can mean saying "no" to our well-being, and "no" to the things that should take precedence, but we're hesitant to disappoint others.
At the age of 57, this experience has firmly reinforced the notion that prioritizing myself is entirely acceptable. It has imparted the wisdom that there's no need to carry guilt when tending to my own needs. I'm eager to impart these lessons to you and offer a gentle reminder...
1. Yep! It is okay to say NO! It's essential to set boundaries and say no to commitments or tasks that you genuinely cannot accommodate. Overcommitting can lead to burnout and increased stress.
2. Prioritize self-care and work-life balance. Make self-care a priority. Allocate time for activities that rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending quality time with loved ones. Maintain a healthy work-life balance to prevent burnout and maintain overall well-being.
3. Don’t forget to get mental health support: Don't hesitate to seek professional help if you're struggling with mental health issues. A therapist or counselor can provide guidance and support in managing stress, anxiety, or other mental health concerns.
4. Make stress management a conscious effort. Incorporate stress-reduction techniques like mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, or journaling into your daily life. Managing stress can prevent burnout and improve overall health.
5. You are replaceable! There…I said it…no matter your position, you are replaceable. No position, whether it's a job or a volunteer role, should ever come at the cost of your well-being. Remember, there will always be someone ready to fill the role, serve the clients, or lead the department.
And finally…
6. Be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself lets your inner person know that you are important.
Self-care isn't a luxury; it's a necessity! It's not about being selfish; it's about preserving your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. When you prioritize yourself, you become better equipped to tackle the challenges life throws your way, and you radiate that strength to those around you. So, go ahead, make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine, because you deserve it, and the world benefits from the best version of you.
Here's to each of you, embracing the power of self-care and shining even brighter!